Parshas Mikeitz

In this week's parsha, the Torah recounts the discussion between the Shevatim upon hearing that one of them must remain in Egypt as a hostage. The pasuk tells us how they admitted one to another that they were guilty for not listening to their brother Yosef's cries, and were therefore suffering their current predicament as punishment. Reuven then said to them, "did I not tell you not to sin against the child?" What was the purpose of Reuven's statement? The brothers had just admitted what they had done wrong - why did he feel the need to chastise them after they had already expressed their remorse?

Rav Yosef Dov Solovetchik answers that we must pay closer attention to the exact words of the pasuk in order to appreciate what was going on. In their statement of regret, the brothers specifically use the word "achinu", meaning brother; Reuven merely uses the ambiguous word "yeled", meaning child. The brothers were expressing regret for their actions based on the fact that Yosef was a member of their own family, and that to commit such a horrible crime against one's own flesh and blood is a terrible sin. What Reuven was trying to tell them was that they should not regret their actions solely on the basis of the victim being a family member; even if the victim was simply a "yeled", a random individual with no relation to them, what they did was still very wrong. Selling an innocent person into slavery is a grevious sin, no matter who he is. And that is why Reuven felt the need to make his statement: he wanted to drive home the point that an offense committed is just as serious even if the victim is not a close family member, and thus they must do teshuva accordingly.

As human beings, we have a tendency to be more caring and compassionate toward members of our own family, and toward people we can relate to. Someone who is "not our type" can often wind up being neglected, or even oppressed. We must learn from this week's parsha that no one should be written off just because they do not have a close connection with us - every person is special, and every yid must be treated with dignity and care, like members of our own family.

Parshas Vayeishev

In this week's parsha, we learn about the strained relationship between Yosef and his brothers. The Torah tells us "v'hu na'ar", which Rashi elaborates as referring to the fact that he would busy himself with his hair. The difficulty with this is twofold: first of all, was Yosef really so materialistic that he would be so obsessed with his hair? And second of all, even if so, why use the word "na'ar" - meaning "child" - to describe his preoccupation with it?

The answer is that Yosef was not obsessed with the style or appearance of his hair; rather, Rashi is referring to the fact that he was constantly cutting it every day, and keeping it neat. Yosef knew from his dreams that he was destined to be king someday, and since the Rambam rules that a king must have his hair cut every single day so as to look presentable (as befits a king), Yosef was preparing himself for the role by starting to do so already while he was young.

So why does the pasuk use the word "na'ar", implying childishness? Because it was not his place to start acting like a king before his time came. A child does not understand how to wait for something; rather he demands instant gratification. So too, Yosef was acting like a king before he was supposed to, and thus the pasuk refers to his actions using the word "na'ar". There was no need for him to get an early start - when it is bashert for something to happen, it will happen, even on its own. Indeed, when his time finally did come, everything fell into place on its own - Pharoah had him removed from the dungeon and ordered that his hair be cut for him, without any intervention by Yosef himself.

There are times in life when we think we see ahead of time the path that Hashem has in mind for us, and we attempt to "jump the gun" and pursue it, only to be disappointed when things don't work out quite as we expected. We must learn from this week's parsha that everything has its time and place. Hashem has in mind exactly what will happen to us and exactly what we will get, and there is no need for us to try to take matters into our own hands. When the time is ripe, Hashem will orchestrate everything perfectly. All we have to do is wait patiently - and daven.

Parshas Vayishlach

In this week's parsha, the Torah tells us how Yaakov sent a message to Esav, hoping to stave off an impending conflict. In his message, he tells Esav "I have acquired 'shor' and 'chamor'", using the singular loshon for "ox" and "donkey". Rashi explains that it is "derech eretz" to refer to many units of livestock in the singular form. But to refer to it as "derech eretz" implies that it is actually somehow more befitting than using the plural form. What is so special about using the singular form?

R' Moshe Feinstein answers that it is because it is important not to be proud of one's fortune as a whole, but rather to appreciate each individual unit. Each animal in one's possesion is a reason to be thankful to Hashem for the goodness He has bestowed upon him; all the more so when one has an entire herd. And that is why Yaakov used the singular form of "shor" and "chamor" - to show that he appreciated each and every possesion as an individual bracha from Hashem.

We can learn from here an important lesson about the significance of each individual. There is no "herd mentality" in Klal Yisroel; not only is every possesion a unique blessing, but every individual is important in his own right as well. Klal Yisroel is the flock of Hakadosh Baruch Hu, and each and every one of us receives the same loving care and devotion from Him as if we were the only one.

Parshas Vayeitzei

This week's parsha starts by telling us how Yaakov departed from Be'er Sheva, heading for Charan. Rashi comments on this that the departure of a tzaddik from a place has a significant impact - the spiritual shine of the place is depleted. The question is, why did Rashi wait until Yaakov to tell us about this phenomenon? Why didn't Rashi tell us about the impact made on various places when Avraham or Yitzchak left them?

The answer is because by Avraham and Yitzchak, that their departure caused an impact was obvious - being the outgoing kiruv personalities that they were, everyone would notice the decrease in kedusha when they left. Yaakov, however, was a "yoshev ohalim" - a quiet, unassuming person - and thus one might have thought that he didn't make much of an impression when he left. That is why Rashi tells us that quite the contrary - the limud hatorah of a tzaddik like Yaakov Avinu is of such significance, that even though outwardly it may not seem impressive, nevertheless it has a tremendous effect on the spirituality of his surroundings.

Likewise, we must learn from here how choshuv an atmosphere of Torah is. Even if one is not actually learning in a yeshiva, by living in a Torah community and associating oneself with Torah scholars, one can benefit from the special aura that the Torah brings. By supporting Torah institutions and talmidei chachamim, one gains a share in the special light that is characteristic of the Torah and its followers.